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Why are you demanding justice?

Are you seriously afraid of breaking the law and going to jail? Then what makes you think criminals should be?
Jatin Sharmaby Jatin Sharma

Sonia Gandhi expressed her disappointment over the Mumbai gangrape two days after the incident. As if there was any other reaction that we were expecting.

Or as if she had any other reaction to show.

Every time an unfortunate incident takes place in India, every one is ‘disappointed’. We are not just disappointed, we are also ‘disturbed’. We can’t sleep at night and we keep wailing out our helplessness. We ponder existential questions such as, ‘What has become of society?’

Post-December 2012, we woke up to how heinous a crime rape is. We pledged our support, we came out in large numbers for a change. And then we got slapped by a gangrape in a city that is considered to be the safest for women. And that is only because we as a society have not set our priorities right.

We are not aware of our own realities. Half of us would be shocked if we realised that there were 207 rapes in the city of Mumbai in 2012. And that is what the point is. We as a society think only when our media wants us to think. Other rapes don’t shock us or release the pent up anger in us, because those rapes were just rapes and not gangrapes. We define the scale of a crime by its brutality. We don’t notice it when it mushrooms slowly. After a gangrape, we scream, “Cut off their penises and hang them in public!” We furiously demand the death penalty for all rapists, because we think that is what can stop rape. But can anyone tell me how successful the death penalty has been in order to curb murders in society?

The simple point that I want to make is that it is high time for us as a society to start using our brains more than we use our hearts. If we want to discuss bringing about a change, we hang the rapisthave to discuss solutions that are practical, not just an idea that looks great because it involves cutting and killing people and ending criminals, not their crime.

The first problem with India is that people are fearful of the Government, and not the other way round. The Government servants, the law and the politicians come out and threaten us and that’s why hooliganism prevails because there is no fear of law. Our systems are not with those being governed, but they work with those who govern others. In today’s day and age, are you fearful of not breaking a law? At least 90 per cent of people will say ‘no’ because they know that they have too many Gandhis in their pockets, that serves as a good aid to breaking the law. If people like us, who don’t wish to really break the law have no fear of the law, what makes you expect that people with a criminal bent of mind will fear it?

The second problem is: Do we ask ourselves a question before demanding answers? After the recent gangrape, millions of statuses were updated with posts saying, ‘I live in a democracy and I have the right to roam wherever I want to’. Before typing that, did you ask yourself what role you are playing in this democracy? Is your job over after spending five minutes at the polling booth every five years – and some of us don’t do even that. So where are you exactly in the whole scheme of governance? Tell yourself that you will have to take part in governance before you demand accountability from the Government. And yes, if you don’t have the time for all of this, just count the hours you spend on Facebook and attending parties. I am sure you can find half an hour a day in educating yourself and saving the country.

We crib about our helplessness and rape and murders and regionalism and recession and the falling rupee and inflation. I think it’s time that we start blaming ourselves for not instilling fear in our police authorities and our bureaucrats and politicians. Rape is a global crime, it happens everywhere. While it is definitely a value that we need to instill in our children and especially boys, where we must teach them to respect the womb that bears them for nine months, but at the same time it’s the duty of the citizens to instill fear in those who fail to educate themselves.

We can’t have animals running on the streets, animals who don’t fear hunters. We can’t kill them, for many others like them will only appear. It’s time we stand up for a cause and make everyone join in. We have to instill fear in those who don’t respect women.

Looks like a mammoth task? I will make it simpler. Just start with not laughing and giving high fives the next time you discuss the size of the breasts of your female colleagues.

Jatin Sharma is a media professional who does not want to grow up, because if he grows up, he will be like everybody else.

(Pictures courtesy newindianexpress.com, mtv.in.com) 

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‘Respect our privacy, give us breathing space’

Mumbai gangrape victim and her family send out a plaintive appeal and thanks the nation for its overwhelming love, support.
by The Editors | editor@themetrognome.in

Today, the family of the 22-year-old photojournalist who was gangraped by five men in the Shakti Mills compound in Mahalaxmi three days ago, sent out a message to the Government, the Mumbai Police, the authorities of Jaslok Hospital, the members of the Press, and the general public, all of whom have shown support and empathy with the girl and her family.

Reproduced below is the message from her mother:

DATE 25TH AUGUST 2013
Dear Members of the Print and Television media of Mumbai and the Nation at large,

My daughter and I are overwhelmed with the support given to us by the police, the media and the public at large during such a nightmarish phase for us. We want to thank you all for showing sensitivity and restraint which has given us strength, hope and courage to pick up the pieces of our lives after the most tragic incident. We would also like to thank the authorities including the Jaslok hospital staff and management, the state administration, the Chief Minister’s office and Mumbai Police for their support and prompt action.

We would also like to apologise for the inconvenience caused to other patients and their relatives during this time. We hope and pray for your continued support and campaign in the fight for justice for my daughter and women at large in India. Now that stringent laws are in place, we are optimistic that your and the government’s efforts will help fast track the matter so that the severest of punishment is meted out. This will ensure that even the most sick-minded think twice before they act in such an
inhuman and insensitive way.

I have one small request to all of you. Please continue to respect the privacy of my daughter and me in this most trying time of our lives and give us the breathing space we so desperately need by not visiting our residence. We live in a society where such actions will only make it more difficult for us to get back to a normal life. This can also impact my daughter’s life and become an impediment in our struggle to regain our sanity and composure.

We hope and pray you will empathize and adhere to our humble request while continuing your support for justice, not just for my daughter but for all those victims and families who go through the same hell as we have.

Thank you.
God bless you and your families.”

 (Picture courtesy www.hindustantimes.com)

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Beauty

Prevent early signs of aging

Are you worried that your skin looks older than you? Follow a few simple steps and reduce wrinkles right now.
by Deepa Mistry

No one likes to look old, whether they are in their early 30s or older. To look younger, we all end up spending a bomb on over-the-counter products, prescription creams and fillers, and, most drastically, cosmetic surgery. But do any of these really work? Maybe yes, but only temporarily.

Wrinkles are an inevitable part of the natural aging process. As we become older, our skin becomes thinner, drier and less elastic. Our skin’s ability to protect itself from damage is also reduced as we age. Eventually wrinkles, creases and lines form on our skin.

According to Medilexicon’s medical dictionary, “A wrinkle is a furrow, fold, or crease in the skin, particularly of a type seen with increasing occurrence as a result of sun exposure or, in perioral skin (skin lining the inside of the mouth), cigarette smoking; associated with degeneration of dermal elastic tissue.”

Wrinkles are the creases, folds or ridges we see on our skin. The first most visible signs, however, appear on our face. There are two main types of wrinkles: Surface lines and Deep furrows. Most wrinkles tend to appear in the parts of the body which receive the most sun exposure, including the backs of hands, face, neck and tops of forearms. With our lifestyles, apart from the normal aging process, there are many other factors that cause wrinkles.

smokingSmoking produces free radicals in the body. These cause wrinkles and age-related skin problems to develop sooner. Free radicals also increase the risk of non-melanoma skin cancers. Smokers tend to have thinner skin, and more and deeper wrinkles than nonsmokers. Cigarette smokers are also more prone to skin cancers, including squamous cell carcinoma and giant basal cell carcinoma.

Research has found that women who smoke have much lower levels of Vitamin E secretions in their skin. Vitamin E is an antioxidant that may help protect the skin from sun damage. People who spend considerable time out in the sun if their job requires them to or during their leisure hours are more likely to develop wrinkles earlier. Avoid smoking; heavy smokers are almost five times more likely to show excessive wrinkling than nonsmokers. Even passive smoke is dangerous to skin.

Protect your skin from the sun. Sunlight exposure is the most important cause of early aging of skin (a process called photoaging). Sunlight exposure is also the main cause of skin cancers.

The two types of sun rays that can injure the skin are ultraviolet A (UVA) and ultraviolet B (UVB). Exposure sunlight exposureto ultraviolet radiation accounts for most of the symptoms of early skin aging. Much of the damage is underway by age 20. Even small amounts of UV radiation trigger the processes leading to skin wrinkles.

Intense exposure to sunlight in early life is an important cause of melanoma, an aggressive type of skin cancer. Wear sunscreen and sunglasses.

your genesDon’t blame your genes. Your genes only govern 30 per cent of how you age. The other 70 per cent is up to you. Eat healthy; a diet with plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables and whole grains, along with healthy oils (such as olive oil) may protect the skin from damage by free radicals. This is because these foods have high levels of antioxidants. Increase your intake of antioxidants like pomegranates, blueberries, green tea or fruits with high water content. Daily exercise keeps blood flowing, which brings oxygen to the skin.

Be happy. Yes you heard it right! A research shows that men and women who are depressed or divorced or those using antidepressants looked older than married or widowed people of the same age. At the very least, being happy will help you not care so much about the wrinkles!

Wrinkles are not considered medical conditions or life-threatening or harmful to physical health. Getting rid of wrinkles or taking steps to postpone their development are always optional measures, because it is important for the individual to bear this in mind when considering treatment options. At the end of the day, it’s all about feeling good about yourself.

With inputs from: Skin wrinkles and blemishes | University of Maryland Medical Center.

(Pictures courtesy www.vibhalife.com, blogs.independent.co.uk, www.healthtap.com, www.india-forums.com)

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Enough said

On Gulzar’s 77th birthday

What is left for poet and lyricist Gulzar to write about? A book of short stories for children, of course!
by Humra Quraishi

Last week, I just let myself be, sapped of all energy by news of crimes and killings all around us. I find that when I’m sad or in despair, reading a good book really helps.

And a great book couldn’t have come at a better time, or with better timing. I read the recently-released volume on Gulzarsaab, In The Company Of A Poet: Gulzar in conversation with Nasreen Munni Kabeer.

Gulzar turned 77 on August 18 – he was born in 1936 in Punjab. The book chronicles his thoughts, views and experiences and illustrates several points with his verse. Laced with these are details of his childhood spent his ancestral village in the undivided Punjab, his school days in old Delhi, his early days in Bombay where he’d worked in a garage before moving to the film world, where he associated with such luminaries as Balraj Sahni, Sahir Ludhianvi, Bimal Roy, RD Burman and several others.

rakhee and gulzarThen there the personal details of his life, ‘his deep connection with his wife, the legendary actor Raakhee, his daughter Meghna and his grandson Samay.’

I met him for the first time in the summer of 2005, for an interview for a national daily. He was staying at New Delhi’s India International Centre (IIC), so it was decided that I meet him over breakfast at IIC’s tea lounge. And though we spoke of several things, the most enduring image I have of him is how the tears flowed down his cheeks as he spoke about his bond with the Kashmir Valley.

“Somehow, the Kashmir Valley always fascinated me to such an extent, that Raakhee and I decided to go to Srinagar for our honeymoon. We often teased our daughter Bosky that she was conceived there in the Valley…”

He’d added, “Kashmir is an integral part of my emotions, it’s a region which is close to my heart. I was even planning to make a film on the Valley; I’d named the film Iss Vaadi Mein, and it was based on Krishna Chander’s short story collection Kitaab Ka Kafan. It dealt with two lovers in the two parts of the Valley and how they try to overcome the military barriers. Sadly, the film could not be made as the Kargil War had broken out.”

The good news is that Gulzarsaab is nowhere near retiring – his latest collection of short stories, Half A Rupee Stories, was recently launched here in Delhi. And though a family emergency prompted me to skip the release function and go to Uttar Pradesh, on returning I was touched to learn that Gulzarsaab had dedicated one of the stories to me. The story, centred on the Kashmir Valley, comes with this line about me: “We share a lot of Kashmir, though neither of us is from there.”

The genius writer is currently working out the plotlines of several books. “There are several books in my head,” he says. “I want to complete them. Writing is very important, it is a shock absorber. It has the capacity to absorb all upheavals, shocks, pains, all the conditions you’re going through. It is like driving along a road which could be uneven or bumpy. Writing then becomes your vehicle, it takes you along and you go atop it, as though you were riding a tiger.” He is also translating Rabindranath Tagore’s books for children. “I love writing for children and I find it very fulfilling,” he says. He adds, “Today, we are snatching the childhoods of our children by putting them too early into the formal education system. We are shrinking that crucial phase in their life. My worry is that in the coming years, children could get extremely lonely, especially in urban locations.”

(Pictures courtesy Amit Kanwar and www.missmalini.com)

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Hula hoop, we say!

This cost-effective and fun way to exercise comes to the city through a one-hour workshop taking place at Bandra tomorrow. Go for it!
by Medha Kulkarni

Do these sound familiar?

“I will go for a jog every day.”
“ I will do yoga on my own at home.”
“I will YouTube fitness videos and follow them at home.”

Urban India is quite firmly caught in the throes of the fitness mantra and that’s a positive sign. However,the nature of our lifestyles and work leaves us with very little to really do anything about it. There’s a percentage of people who regularly attend the gym or various other fitness classes, but this percentage is still a minority. The rest of us try to eat as healthy as possible and frequently decide to do some form of fitness activity. But let’s be honest – most of our plans never come to anything.

hula hoop workshopThe main reason for this is lack of motivation.While we are very keen on being fit, it’s very difficult to really follow a fitness routine on your own at home. Maybe this is why hula hooping is fast gaining popularity. If you want to get into shape via a fun exercise activity, go for Leona Rodrigues’s hula hooping workshop at Bandra today.

What is hula hooping?
A hula hoop is a hollow hoop, which comes in various diameters. It has till recently been relegated as a toy and indeed, children have great fun hula hooping. However, the health benefits of hula hooping have quickly catapulted it to the top of fitness routines.

Hula hooping has a variety of health benefits. It’s an excellent workout for your abs and waist, it makes your spine supple and flexible, and burns calories effectively. Just 30 minutes of regular hula hooping every day can produce striking results in barely six weeks. The best part? It’s an inexpensive way of exercise – buying a hoop is one-time investment and it’s a lot of fun.

Once you master the basic technique, you can hula hoop away excess fat in any part of the body!

The workshop

If you are interested in learning to hula hoop, make your way to Bandra tomorrow, where Leona will conduct a one hour session at St. Joseph’s Convent High School Hall, Hill Road. Leona will not only teach you how to hula hoop, but will also answer all your hoop-related doubts. The best part about this workshop? At Rs 500, it will cost less than a movie out.

Hoops will be provided at the workshop and if you’re so inclined, you can even buy one from Leona to practice at home. Leona has been hula hooping for years and has conducted several workshops till date.For more information and registration, call 9867322077.

(Pictures courtesy natalieplaton.com and Hoopgaga )

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Tech

Two spanking new Windows phones

Nokia launched two new WP smartphones in the Indian market yesterday; both will have to compete with low-budget Android phones.
by Manik Kakra

Nokia launched two new Windows smartphones in the Indian market yesterday. The Lumia 625 and 925 are the new additions to its WP lineup.

Let’s first talk about the Lumia 625 (in featured image above). This 3G phone has been priced at Rs 19,999. It features a 4.7-inch (480×800) LCD, a 5 MP rear camera, and a VGA front-facing camera. This mid-range WP handset is powered by the 1 GHz S4 processor, along with 512 MB of RAM. The Lumia 625 packs 2,000 mAh battery and 8 GB of on-board storage (expandable via microSD card).

Probably the best thing about this smartphone is Your Movies. It’s an app that gives you service for free downloading and streaming movies (high quality and standard quality options) for the first three months of buying a Lumia 625. Very nice move by Nokia, right? This phone comes in yellow, orange, green, black and white colours.

Lumia 925On the other hand, the Lumia 925 is Nokia’s new high-end smartphone in the Indian market. It sports a 4.5-inch (1280×768) screen, and is powered by the 1.2 GHz S4 processor, along 1 GB of RAM. On the back, there is an 8.7 MP camera; while the front has got a 1.2 MP (wide angle) camera. It packs 2,000 mAh battery and 16 GB of internal storage (not expandable). The Lumia 925, priced at Rs. 33,490, comes in grey, white, and black colours.

Both these phones pack usual smartphones features, too, like Bluetooth, WiFi, microUSB 2.0, and A-GPS. Apart from these, these Lumia phones also come with pre-loaded Nokia apps and services like Nokia Music, Camera360, HERE Maps, and also give users 7 GB of free storage space on SkyDrive.

After the Lumia 520, 620, 720,820 and 920, these two phones are its latest Windows Phone 8 handsets, which aim at different price-point audiences, while not trying to compromise much on the experience. It will be interesting to see, especially after seeing that budget Android phones have improved over the last one year or so, what consumers choose from here, and whether Windows Phone OS attracts them or not.

Do you won a Windows Phone device? Or do you prefer Android over WP? Do let us know your opinions on this.

(Pictures courtesy Nokia India)

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