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Good salary, but never have enough of money on hand? Chances are, you’re making one of five common money mistakes.

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Money sure matters to all of us, but are you one of those people that never seem to have enough of it? On the face of it, you’re being quite fiscally responsible – you don’t go out partying every night, nor do you shop every so often. Then how is it that you never have enough money for emergencies? More to the point, how is it that so many others do?

It’s possible that you’re making one (or more) of these five common money mistakes:

1 Spending everything. Is this a recurring pattern in your life – money comes, money gets spent? If you are spending every last Rupee that you make, you will have nothing left over at the end of the month. If you find yourself regularly borrowing small sums of money in the last week of every month, it means that either your income is insufficient for your needs, or that you are spending more than you should.

2 Being too cautious. On the other hand, you might be spending very little money, even on essentials. Go on, live a little. We’re not suggesting that you splurge your cash at every opportunity, but being too thrifty is not ideal either. It’s important to strike a balance between where money needs to be spent, and where an expense can be avoided.

3 Not saving every month. There’s only one way to have a large savings fund – by saving money every month. As tough as it seems, it’s not impossible to do. Every month, set aside your savings first and then allocate monies for bills, travel, groceries, children’s needs, etc. Most people meet their expenses first and then try to save money – which rarely works. Just a sum of Rs 3,000 to Rs 5,000 set aside every month can rack up a large savings fund over time.

4 Not creating a retirement fund. We’re all working and quite young right now, but the time to plan for retirement is when you’re still working and young. Many people put off planning for retirement till they are past their 50s, by which time they cut short their own planning time. Apart from creating a savings retirement fund, you can also invest in pension plans, or PPF (Public Provident Fund) or a suitable market-linked investment such as ULIPs or ELSS.

5 Getting into debt. It starts with small sums of money borrowed from friends or relatives, and then develops into a regular habit. Borrowing money is the worst money mistake – it leads to debt and a bad credit history (if you have institutional loans such as personal or credit card loans. Debt eats into your income and leaves you floundering when you have an emergency expense. If you have private and institutional loans, it is better to close them one by one to clear up your credit history. And remember, do not borrow loans to repay loans!

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If Piku was a man…

What if ‘Piku’ had been the father’s story, and if the protagonist was a man? Does the story play out differently?

by Dr Pooja Birwatkar

Piku released recently to an almost unanimous vote of approval from audiences. The story of a daughter fast approaching middle age taking care of her hypochondriac old father while juggling personal problems and a career, made for an engrossing subject. While tracing the nuances of the father-daughter bond, the film made an angel out of the distressed daughter caught in two worlds, courtesy her difficult father.

As per Indian standards, Piku should have been married and settled in life, raising her kids. However, Piku is ‘deprived’ of this set pattern of life as her life’s focal point becomes her difficult and demanding father. All sympathies are bestowed on Piku as some sort of ‘victim’ who suffers a trail of misfortunes. Out of all this, the biggest point to stand out was that Piku is a girl. A girl of marriageable age who has ‘compromised’ on life for the duties she has taken upon herself.

While the film’s makers may have given a nod to gender equality by making the protagonist a woman and not a man, yet the way the ‘sacrifice’ was highlighted did not celebrate the equality of sexes. If Piku had been a man, there would have been no discussion on his marriage and sexual needs. There would be no dialogues about Piku’s virginity (she talks about her sexual needs as well). We wouldn’t think the man was making a sacrifice – rather we would take him to task for not taking care of his vulnerable parent. Piku’s pains would be his duties. Oddly enough, we cannot picture the girl Piku bringing home a husband who lives with her father and shares their daily struggles. Even her father does not give her this liberty. A man in her place enjoys the privilege of bringing home a wife who would look after his parents, while men are not expected to do so for their wives’ parents.

We find many Pikus in our metros. Why is this? If we look at life from the standpoint of her father, we would discover many ugly truths about life in the metros. While it is true that Piku’s father is an extreme hypochondriac, there wasn’t anything very unusual about the way he behaves. Each of us has this sort of senior in our homes, neighborhood and even extended families.

A typical couple in Mumbai goes through the expected struggles of setting up home and fulfilling all their dreams. Their entire life passes by in the pursuit of these goals. Finally, they retire to the peaceful confines of home and solitude, thinking of what might have been. In their golden years, loneliness silently creeps in and becomes the sole companion of their grey years.

Many aged people behave just like Piku’s father – they become maniacal about their health as they age, overly critical, and always apprehensive about their future. Though the film shows this behaviour as ‘selfish’, there is an empathetic note to be taken here is that severity of this behaviour can be linked to the lack of confidence one has about the smooth transition to old age and death.

While health scares, medical expenses, lack of care providers all plague our senior citizens, the biggest scare is that of being left alone. Are we doing enough to make Mumbai a blissful retiring space for our elderly? If not, why not? Are our senior citizens not justified in being overly possessive and critical? They must think with a shudder of themselves being stuck in an ambulance on a busy road, or dying alone at home while their children pursue their own lives abroad.

When Piku’s father’s dying makes life easier for everyone around, the question remains: what of those who are still alive? Aren’t the elderly justified in wanting to go back to their roots, to be near their loved ones, to be like a child again? We come full circle when we reach old age, reaching for those things we held so dear as children. Understand from the senior’s lens: it is not easy to start losing everything you worked for all your life.

We all took heart from knowing that we are not alone, that we are Pikus too. But spare a thought to the thousands of elderly citizens who are forced to depend on their children in their old age. Maybe we could then think of our parents and elders in a different way.

Dr Pooja Birwatkar is currently pursuing post doctoral research and working in the area of science education. She has been associated with the field of education in the past as a teacher educator, and her area of interest is research in education.

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